Last night while at my chiropractor's office, the resident massage therapist was telling me a story of how her daughter told a school friend that her mommy "rubbed naked people for a living." The school automatically assumed that meant she was a prostitute and called her in for a conference. She was embarrassed, as was her daughter, who swore that she had NOT said her mom was a prostitute. My friend explained that she was a massage therapist and did, indeed, rub naked people for a living. It was clearly a misunderstanding and maybe the school over-reacted a bit. "Misunderstandings" with the outside world happen a lot in pole dancing and sometimes it affects the children of dancers.p
What do you do when your 13-year-old daughter's friends find out that mommy pole dances for exercise? Teenage girls are especially so fragile these days. They need to be loved and nurtured, and they need to be able to assert their independence. Everything family-related usually embarrasses them. Mom on a pole totally embarrasses them. However, she is at an age where Mom can finally start leaving her at home, which gives her more time to explore her own needs and wants. And one thing Mom needs and wants is to pole dance. That is, until said teenage daughter's friends start calling her mom a stripper. How do you handle that?
This happened to me last year. I LOVE my pole studio family but my husband and daughter have to come first. Due to photos on Facebook, the whispering started that I was a stripper whore. Wow. Really? I dance in a tank top and dance shorts with a skirt over the top. In the end, after taking a little time off and making sure my daughter understood that she was number one in my life, I did go back to my pole studio. I have fun there. I get to laugh and dance and spend time with a lot of great ladies. I would hate to sacrifice that because of a few mean gossips who have no idea how difficult yet satisfying it is to pole dance.
I imagine I am not the only one out there with this problem. Has anyone else had to deal with it? How did you handle the haters? Bonus points if you carved the outline of a pole dancer into their lawn. I'd love to hear your story!